When the lines of battle have been drawn, when the rules of engagement have been delineated, it is important to decide where you stand. It is important to know what you believe and what you are willing to fight for. It is important to know if the battle is yours and whether it is worth fighting. It is important to know if the battle instills in you a need to win, or a desire for something better. And if you desire something better, you may need to make clear you will not fight. You might need to make known there is no battle that benefits you. Sometimes the best response is no response, and the rules of engagement include dis-engaging. Sometimes the battle is within and the only way to win is to lay down your arms. Before you build ramparts and man the stations, remember this theatre of war may not be of your making, it may not grow you. Sometimes you need to walk away to have your life.